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Tuesday, 10 November 2009

  • Will you take his name? -- My opinion

    Thanks guys for your take on this topic!  For those that missed my last entry, I just copied and pasted this article I found: http://tv.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=440879 and wanted to know what your take was.

    For me, I USED to think that I would never change my last name because I love my parents.  I want to carry their name forever and have people that knows me and acknowledge me as my parent's daughter.  No one could ever replace their unconditional love, support, care, and support.  All their sacrifices they made in order to give me every opportunity in the world to succeed.  Therefore, I used to think that I want to carry out this family name to the whole world and have know its this family that got me to where I am in life!

    Call me a hopeless romantic, but recently, I found someone that I will be honored to carry his last name and be "his".  If I ever have kids, I want to be "their" mom.  I want letters sent to me with "Mr. & Mrs. ___" instead of "Mr. ___ and Ms. ____"  I just don't feel close or family-like.  I want to go pick up my kids and show them my ID and they know which child is mine and not have to ask me what his name and last name is because it is different than mine.

    All in all, I want to keep my family last name in academia and/or work-related environment.  Because without my parents, I will not succeed this far and will not have the opportunity to reach my goals.  Whatever publications/awards/degree/etc is "theirs".  But when it is friend and outside of work environment; I want to use my husband's last name.  It will be my first name, middle name is my family name, and my last name will be my husband's last name.

    I don't like the article ONE BIT!  I feel like this woman is too aggressive and is weird. 

    1.  "No: I check out the wedding announcements because I want to see how many women change their names."  --What is wrong with her?? She has nothing else to do but to check to see how many females change their last name??  Is she jealous that she didn't do it?? Seriously, find something else to do in your life than to criticize other people's decisions!

    2. "Names are our identity." -- Thank you leprovocateur for your answer:  "I find that I am less identified with my name (I believe it to be the other direction: I give my name the meaning) - my franchise isn't built on my name as they are for celebrities and designers such as Madonna, Vera Wang, or Prince, all of whom take deliberate measures to strategically align their professional brand with their name."

    3.  "Would you want to lay down seven grand to buy a wedding dress from Vera Becker? (Vera Wang?)"  Thank you leprovocateur again for your answer: " I would certainly buy a gown from Vera Becker, if it is still that same brilliant wedding dress designer.  I would listen to songs of those same stars if they opted to change their last name [or first name].  For me, talent is talent, by any other name."

    4.  "By the way, my wedding announcement was in The New York Times. When I submitted it, I wrote, "The groom is keeping his name." The Times did not publish that sentence. I guess they thought it was a typo."  --  What a FREAK!  I feel sorry for her husband.  He's probably a pushover (oops, i shouldn't be talking bad about her husband when he didn't even say anything).

    I like cal_islander point: "I like the idea of a family having a name in common--its like being on a basketball team (sorry, I love sports analogies) and having the same team name on the front of the jersey, a team name you can take pride in and unite under, all the while the names on the back of the jersey are different and represent the individual players. It's like belonging to a school or a group, and everyone there is different but they're a part of something larger so they have a common name. A family is like a team, and if you're on the same team, then you have the same name, right?"

  • "Will you take his name?"

    Hey guys!  Please take some time reading this article I found on msn.com written by Faith Salie.  I want to know your opinion on this topic.  If you were the husband, would you want your wife to take your last name?  If so, why and if not, why?  If you were the wife, would you want to take your husband's last name?  Again, why or why not?  I'm very curious what your opinions are on this topic.  I will write another entry about MY opinion after I get your perspective on this:

    http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articleoprah.aspx?cp-documentid=22451128&gt1=32023

    Lots of folks have Sunday morning rituals — church, pancakes, watching football. I turn to the wedding pages.

    Every Sunday, I open up The New York Times to check out the wedding announcements. They call that "the sports section for women," which is annoying, because it presupposes that, because I'm a chick, (a) I don't like sports and (b) I love weddings. To which I say, (a) I know what a hat trick is and (b) wedding invitations are just bills written in calligraphy.

    No: I check out the wedding announcements because I want to see how many women change their names.

    I am freshly gobsmacked every single Sunday morning when I see that about half the women — mostly under 35, all women with careers, all women who chose to submit their announcement to the putatively liberal New York Times — are electing to give up their identity.

    What would Lucy Stone say? She was a 19th-century suffragist who was the first American woman to revert to her birth name after marriage. She even had to chastise one Susan B. Anthony by writing to Suze, "A wife should no more take her husband's name than he should hers." Stone's followers — women who refused to change their names upon marriage — were called Stoners.

    Today only about 20 percent of American women are Stoners. In other words, 80 percent of women change their identities — I mean, names — upon getting married.

    It makes me wish we were a more progressive country like … Iran. Yes, Iran, where Muslim women keep their names for life. So must women, by law, keep their names in Belgium, France, Italy, the Netherlands, Chile, Malaysia, Korea … I could go on, but I really like the way they do it in Spain.

    There, people have two surnames — their father's and their mother's. When they have a child, she receives the first surname from the father and the second surname is the first surname of the mother, and the parents choose whether the father's or the mother's surname goes first, although this order must be the same for all their children.

    If that was a bit confusing, it's just because they use the metric system.

    Names are our identity. They matter. Think about it: What does the Witness Protection Program do when they want you to disappear? They make you keep your first name and change your last name. When someone illegally assumes someone else's name, we say an identity's been stolen; when someone legally assumes someone else's name, we say … you're married.

    Let's cut through the most platitudinous argument: "A family shares a name." Um, nuh-uh. Did your grandmother have the same last name as you? Was she still your Nana? Conversely, does having the same last name mean you'll always stay a family? Ask the Gibsons or the McCartneys or the McGreeveys or …

    What's in a name? You tell me …

    • Would you want to lay down seven grand to buy a wedding dress from Vera Becker? (Vera Wang?)
    • How about listen to a song from Mariah Cannon, Jennifer Anthony or Barbra Brolin? (Mariah Carey, Jennifer Lopez, Barbra Streisand)
    • Netflix an old film with Elizabeth Hilton Wilding Todd Fisher Burton Warner Fortensky? (Elizabeth Taylor)
    • Or get your nightly news from Katie Monahan? (Katie Couric)
    • Gloria Bale needs her surname like a fish needs a Steinem. (Gloria Steinem)
    • And does the name Sonia Noonan suggest an "extraordinary journey"? (Sonia Sotomayor)

    By the way, my wedding announcement was in The New York Times. When I submitted it, I wrote, "The groom is keeping his name." The Times did not publish that sentence. I guess they thought it was a typo.

Sunday, 08 November 2009

  • Randomness

    I dont usually do this...but I thought this one might be pretty fun!!  Try it!  It puts your thoughts together ^_^'' Ok, or maybe i'm trying to procrastinate and not want to work on my project and my take home midterm.  (I hate take home midterms 'cuz they make it sooo much harder!! :( boo~) 

     

    TEN Random Things About Me
    10. I have a cat that wakes me up every morning at 4AM and then at 7AM

    9. I am pencil lead in the left side of my body next to my hip 'cuz my brother and I was fighting when we were younger and he stabbed me

    8. I have a fake tooth (front left) 'cuz when we were playing tag back in elementary, a guy tackled me down instead of tagging me and i feel face first while screaming...yea..there goes my tooth!

    7. I've lived in Seattle for a year

    6. I've been schooling in five universities and I have not gotten a PhD yet.  (The Ohio State University, University of Washington, Wright State University, Unversity of Dayton, and Case Western Reserve University)

    5. I love HK Drama (TVB)

    4. I wished I continue playing piano, flute, and tennis 'cuz now I suck

    3. I never had hair shorter than my chin
    2. I have to brush my teeth in the morning...before eating!!!
    1. I have had 5 boyfriends and I still love talking to everyone of them.


    NINE Places I've Visited
    9. Japan

    8. Hong Kong
    7. Germany

    6. Switzerland

    5. UK
    4. New York

    3. Washington
    2. California

    1. Illinois

    EIGHT Things I want to do before I die
    8. Run a marathon

    7. Volunteer somewhere (like a project volunteering)
    6. Be on tv/magazine

    5. Get my PhD

    4. Have a family of my own

    3. Win the nobel prize =D

    2. Skydiving
    1. Scuba-diving


    SEVEN Ways to win my heart
    7. Laugh with me

    6. Love me for who I am

    5. Dance with me

    4. Give me your cheek when I want to bite it

    3. Exercise with me

    2. Understand me
    1. Listen to me


    SIX Things I believe
    6. Everything will be ok in the end
    5. Having an optimistic outlook will make life easier
    4. Everything is possible

    3. Mistakes and experience makes you a stronger and wiser person

    2. Laughing is The Cure for anything

    1. I just believe~

    FIVE Things I'm afraid of
    5. Bugs, insects, spiders, etc
    4. Failing
    3. Disappointing a love on

    2. Losing someone close to me

    1. Commitment

     

    FOUR of my Favorite Items in my bedroom (home and school)
    4. My cat

    3. Laptop
    2. Monty (my monkey)

    1. Books


    THREE Things I do everyday
    3. Gmail
    2. Facebook
    1. Listen to music

    TWO Things I am trying not to do right now
    2. Waste more time - should bedoing research and studying...
    1. Eat

    ONE Person I want to see right now
    1. My Superman =P

Monday, 26 October 2009

  • Cant sleep??

    Ok, seriously...I'm one of those people that can sleep ANYWHERE and ANYTIME.  When i say anywhere, i mean anywhere:  bus, car, class, watching tv, when my mom is talking to me, on the phone, even in a club...you name it!  And I can always sleep....i dont care if i already had 8 hours of sleep or 10.  I can STILL sleep. 

    Sooooo...the WEIRDEST SHIT HAPPENED last nite.   I went to bed..and i CANNOT sleep.  I tried EVERYTHING.  So what do i do?  I did what ppl suggested:

    1.  Count sheep - dood, i counted to 100 and got tired of counting....
    2.  Got online and checked facebook/xanga/news/youtube - nothing.  I wasnt even a LITTLE tired
    3.  Cell Biology Book - this book ALWAYS put me to sleep..but i read 3 chapters and was wide awake.
    4.  Sonlay said that he sleeps when his professors lecture - So i went on youtube and watched math and science lectures....i got interested and wasnt tired...
    5.  Monty - monty is sooo nice and soft!!  I always fall asleep when i'm hugging him..but not last night...he didnt use his magic!! >.<
    6.  Exercise - I did 5 sets of 15 crunches - NOPE. my abs started to hurt and i stopped..

    Sooo..what else can one do to fall asleep??? 

    Here's MY answer...EAT!  Food coma baby!  I made hot pots and i went to sleep right away.  Well, i dont know if i was hungry or if it is because after trying for 3 hours I got tired of trying to sleep and could finally sleep....anyway...that's just my conclusion!  If i cannot sleep..i'll EAT!

    What do you do when you cannot sleep???

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